I'm sorry to hear that. My mom is a breast cancer survivor thanks to being diagnosed early; her aunts weren't as lucky. Since your grandmother and mother were both diagnosed, please PLEASE PLEASE do self exams often, make sure your physician knows this history, and stay vigilant. Give your mom the support she needs right now and put the past aside even if for a short while. Nobody should go through something as frightening as this alone. Since you are such a distance from her, maybe you could find a support group in her area that she could join as well.

  Sweet SPF 75, this is a bucket of deep-fried wack with crackslaw and mashed WTF  ~ Heather the Fug Girl       
  just words...