Does she have periodontal disease? That would explain the cost. Maybe she should talk to the Dr about taking payments, or perhaps use a cc to get the work done and pay off the cc later. I'm sorry about your situation, I sometimes feel this way about a family members horse. I would love to take her away and care for her but I can't so all I can do is politely make suggestions. I also will say things like "SO and So won't get her horses teeth done and now her horse is losing weight, It really makes me mad when people do that." My family member generally gets the hint then, but I admit it's a cowardly way to make the suggestion. :(