GreyAppendix wrote:
Foxhunter wrote:
roro - it's not a hassle to keep it, they're talking about changing it back as being a hassle. You have to tell everyone you've changed it, and remember to change it on all your legal papers - that's the hassle.


Not entirely true. People were discussing "keeping it for the kids" and how having a different last name than your children related to "paperwork, school, [doctors] and everything [one has] to do as a mom."

My mother also never changed her name when she got married. Would it be more of a hassle to change it if you are a parent? Probably. But just a difference in last names wasn't an issue for the things mentioned above.

ETA: Fixing where I make it seem like my parents are divorced.


The way roro said it - as I interpreted it - was that she thought people were saying that keeping your maiden name, as her mother did, was a hassle. That wasn't what people were discussing, just changing it back, once you have taken your husband's name.

Oh, OK, I see what you, and she, were saying now. I think it's a little easier for a parent to have the same last name as a child, but not that big of a deal in this day and age. I never assume that a parent has the same last name as a child. To make matters really confusing, I know a woman - a real hippie, Mother Earth type person (and really annoyingly so) - who has given her first name as a last name to her children - all 5 or 6 of them, last I checked. So her first name is Brooke, with her maiden name, and her kids' last name is Brooke. Eyes

 
proudmoma wrote:
Fucking reality. It's so real.