Tinker, I wish you had filed for the divorce rather than waiting for him to do it; as you said, you knew your marriage was over. Waiting for him to file just kind of makes you feel like you're victimized again it seems. Sorry you're going through this.

As for taking away the electronic devices because of the dryer...I don't know. I guess I always tried to find a consequence that had to do with the infraction. I'd take away the phone if I found out the kid was texting and driving. But for the laundry deal, I guess I'd make her go to the laundromat and spend her own money there. That's just me.

Again, sorry you're going through this. The quicker you start taking action on your own and for your own life now, the less down in the dumps you're going to be. Yeah, it's hard to do, but you can do it.