Foxhunter wrote:
roro - it's not a hassle to keep it, they're talking about changing it back as being a hassle. You have to tell everyone you've changed it, and remember to change it on all your legal papers - that's the hassle.

My friend not only changed hers back, but she gave herself a middle name, which she'd never had!


One of the first things I did when I turned 18 was change my middle name. I've always hated the middle name Mum gave me; always refused to answer to it; started referring to myself with a different middle name when I was 5. I would have changed it earlier, but it was too much of a hassle - had to be witnessed by a justice of the peace, cost more money, etc etc. It was funny because my signature included the initial for "my" name, which was not the initial of my legal name lol! Aside from bank, drivers license etc everything (including school) referred to me with "my" name anyway, so I didn't have too many things I had to change.

My brother uses a different first name...once he was told her looked like George Strait, and now everyone calls him George. His now wife had moved in with him before realising he had a different first name. It's confusing because he has some things under one name and some under the other. Poor Mum didn't have much luck naming her kids I'm afraid!

GreyAppendix wrote:
Foxhunter wrote:

The way roro said it - as I interpreted it - was that she thought people were saying that keeping your maiden name, as her mother did, was a hassle. That wasn't what people were discussing, just changing it back, once you have taken your husband's name.

Oh, OK, I see what you, and she, were saying now. I think it's a little easier for a parent to have the same last name as a child, but not that big of a deal in this day and age. I never assume that a parent has the same last name as a child. To make matters really confusing, I know a woman - a real hippie, Mother Earth type person (and really annoyingly so) - who has given her first name as a last name to her children - all 5 or 6 of them, last I checked. So her first name is Brooke, with her maiden name, and her kids' last name is Brooke. Eyes

Yes, it really isn't a big deal having a different last name from your children. The main "issue" I encountered on the kid end of things was people occasionally assumed my parents were divorced. Which is easy enough to do and not a big deal. It is probably true in most cases, anyways.



I got that a few times, not because my parents last names are different, but because Mum and I moved into town and Dad was still working out on the property and was rarely seen. Lots of people assumed Mum was divorced or widowed because they never saw Dad (we had a worried person contact us once to warn us that an 'old man was snooping around our stables' - poor Dad is 13 years older than Mum, and was fixing our fence for us lol - just about had the cops called on him!).


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