Forgive me, I havn't read all the posts. I would keep my married name because it is my son's name. Period. It just matters to me.

Now, if I could change HIS name to my maiden name, I would do it in a second. No matter what a huge pain in the butt it might be. I would really really love that, actually, since he is named after my paternal grandfather and then he would have the exact same name, not just first and middle.

I have friends who remarried and have a different last name than their kids. They are still called Mrs. (insert childs last name here) by teachers and classmates because it's just assumed that their kids last name is the same as theirs. I really think THAT would be a pain.