lavenderfish wrote:
I changed my name when I married because his family were being assholes about it. I still resent it. It has been 18 years. They thought given-maiden-married name which is what I changed it to since I had no love of my original middle name was a radical feminist statement.
I find that rather sad. It's your name either way, since that's what you are going to be identified by henceforth. Society can be so ridiculous sometimes.

No poor reflection on you at all, just that you felt forced into changing your name. I'd resent it too.