Genv wrote:
Theosmom wrote:
the only other horse with him is another arab cross who is older and somewhat calmer. I dont think he would do well being ponied or that the other horse would pony him. And he didn't actually go through the fence, he just bumped into it I don't think he could see it because it was wire. Luckly the fence wasn't on. He does ok when I hand walk him. he mostly just wants to eat the grass...

Sounds like a respect thing. You're a new rider for him, he's testing you out and he's winning. In your shoes I would start by finding a really good, confident rider to make him behave himself outside of the arena, to prove to you and him that it's possible, and if that seems to be working then swap with them and make him behave for you, and take it from there.

This is a good idea... however his owner has to work on herself as well... with how she handles these situations as well as her relationship with him. She has to rebuild respect and confidence in him as well as herself.

Otherwise, he'll just end being good for rider B but still be a total shit for rider A.

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