Tell her how you feel, and what you think happened. Remember there are two sides to every story. If she starts blustering/denying/being lame, simply tell her you don't wish to be friends anymore, but for you part will remain polite acquaintances. Or you could act like you accept her lameness and quietly become only polite acquaintances.

I had a friend, a good friend, that this happened with. We were close, she was kinda weird sometimes and not considerate at all occasionally. Then we grew apart, and she became even weirder. It was like she was trying to show me up at every turn. So we spoke less and less, and now we communicate (if at all) through myspace messages. And I'm OK with that.

She's at a distance now where I feel friendly again. Before, it was just too invasive, and I resented her and her presence, nay, existence, bothered me. As we grew apart I started to feel comfortable again. I realized I didn't want her to know my secret fears, my personal woes, and relationship status anymore, and now that she doesn't, I'm OK with being friends.

We can actually hang out again and I don't want to kill her or feel like she's trying to be better than me b/c I'm now secure in the privacy of my life.

..............................image My life with my horse....................