Lady Twee wrote:

Next it was her talking bad about me to everyone and their mother while being a sweet andcaring "sister" to me. I let it slide, said there had to be reasons.


It's astonishing how two-faced some people can be.

For example, there's one girl (let's call her L.) in our little group who everybody, and I mean everybody, is very often irritated with. It's a little unfair, I'd be the first to admit, because she is one of those rare, genuinely compassionate people - but she talks almost continuously, and a good 90 - 95% of it is about herself. You can probably imagine, it gets on people's nerves. Everyone has been bitching about her on and off for years (it's currently in an 'on' phase). I've heard that at the moment she thinks I hate her - I have never hated her, I really respect her in some ways, but we are very different people forced by circumstance to spend a whole lot of time together and she annoys the hell out of me. I bitch about her often, and if she's angry at me then, to be honest, she has every right to be I'm polite to her, but I'm not going to pretend to be her best friend when I don't even really like her.

But I found out lately, through the magic of Facebook, that another friend of ours who bitches about L. incessantly (and cruelly - sometimes even I think she's crossed a line) goes out of her way to make this girl think she's her friend. There's one particular post on her Wall: "Chin up, honey. I'm here if you need to talk." I would bet money that, if L. had told her anything good, she would have told our entire group within 24 hours. Don't get me wrong, I like this girl - but I don't get how she could be so cruel as to pretend to be a confidant and real friend, when all she really wants is gossip to disect and bitch about.

I find it kind of ironic that it's me L. is upset with. Not that it's not warranted, but at least I have never lied and pretended to be some kind of caring, close friend. I can be a bitch, but I'm always honest about it. People know where they stand with me.

Lol, that was quite a vent. I'm sorry! I only discovered the extent of the two-faced-ness yesterday and I've been thinking about it. I'm almost hoping that L. will confront me about it (at a party or something, so I could blame the tongue-loosening effects of alcohol!) and I'll get a chance to warn her - I don't like her, but I don't approve of manipulating her or lying to her.

Last Edited By: Genv Oct 28 08 8:30 PM. Edited 1 times.