Well, can you try again? Can you call him and ask him to come back? Sometimes we have to allow ourselves to be vulnerable and honest in order to move forward in a relationship, otherwise relationships get stuck and mired in misconceptions. Would it hurt to ask him what it would take for him to come back? What could you do differently to make him happier? What things he would like changed? How much you think of him and how much you care, how much you enjoy your conversations, how much you'd like to learn more of his heritage and language? Maybe that would make him think things through as well. Just a thought...

Anyway, that might be too much to consider at the moment. I am sorry that you are coping with so much loss at once. I lost my father and within a few weeks of burying him, learned that what I thought was a temporary vision impairment after 6 eye surgeries was not going to heal and I would be partially blind. Let me tell you, losing my vision and my Dad, who was not just my Dad but also my mentor and one of my very best friends, was a real character-builder. I honestly don't know how I made it through, all the adjustments emotionally and physically. Sometimes it was one day at a time; sometimes one hour at a time.

You will recover because you are a strong and intelligent woman; life has not ended and you have more things to accomplish. Right now life has knocked you off balance, but keep a strong faith that you will regain your balance, one day at a time, one hour at a time. When a door closes, a window opens. There are so many animals and so many people in need of love and support, someone will come along and will appreciate what you have to offer. Keep your confidence and self-belief high. There will be another dog in the future, and there will be another man--or maybe the same one. Know that all of us have or will go through loss and difficulty in our lives. No one gets a free ride. And we all struggle with issues, whether they are weight-related, finance-related, education-related.