I don't know who to believe.

I don't like bullies either, and I find that moderated forums tend to harbor that sort of thing.

But at the same time, I'm not a big fan of potstirrers either, though I appreciate standing up and making your opinion known. I don't appreciate folks stirring the pot for the entertainment of folks who aren't brave enough to come over and stir it themselves.
A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep.
Saul Bellow (1915 - 2005)