If you've already sent him to the one trainer in the area who will work with arabs, you are likely stuck sending him out of the area. There are bunches of reputable trainers on this board, and those who know reputable trainers.

I don't imagine you will have much luck finding someone willing to come work him at your place. My experience with those sorts is that generally they mean really well, but are either just starting out and don't have the experience you want, or they charge an arm and a leg.

I'm in the same situation (sort of) as you are. I have a 4yo that I won't ride because he's too green and I don't want to die. I had two local trainers work with him, and for various reasons they weren't able to any more (none of it his fault). I ended up sending him 200 miles north to a professional colt starter (he also does some finishing work, which I thought was nice). I only get to see my boy every 2 weeks or so (whenever I'm willing to make the drive.

I know I'll never get this money back out of him. 4yo TB's are a dime a dozen. He may not even end up being the horse for me, but at least with a solid foundation his chances in life are much better. The way I look at it, I'm investing in his future, not a horse for me if that makes sense.

Since you don't pay his bills, I would suggest sitting down with your parents and making a plan. They will likely be more receptive to whatever you suggest if you can show that you have researched it out. Check around for other possible trainers and what they charge. Look into what that type of horse is selling for in your area (not advertised for, we all know that can be very different.) Then also explore options for what to do if they won't pay for training. Are there local rescues that will take him?

I think understanding that you aren't willing/able to be the one to train him out of this is a big step. I think too many people let pride get in the way. In the end the horse always ends up paying for it.

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