I didn't read anywhere where someone called your traner a douche. Maybe I missed it, but I think what was suggested(with varying degrees of bluntness) is that he isn't the right fit for someone going into H/J land. It sounds like he isn't experienced in that direction and being very upfront about it... that's a *good thing*. If he is a Morgan/arab person he's used to a very different thought process about rail classes than Hunter people:) Remember that most people are fairly critical of trainers here, just goes with the territory I guess.

If I could help with the pics I would but I agree with sonnet that seeing a horse live would be even more benneficial. Hey, even riding a trained horse would be *great* for teaching her the feel she needs.