What a hard situation. And yes, where *is* his money? Even if he's not cheating... a real man would step up as a father and partner to you. Not hide behind the excuse of how he's working sooo hard for $ you need, when you don't see any of it. Unless you think you may have a chance with counseling. If he could do that full heartidly...maaaybe. But if not, don't look back.