I am so sorry that you are going through this. How old is your baby? I am going to guess under 3 months old. I may be way off base with this theory, but I am going to put it out there anyway.

Your boyfriend is probably used to seeing you as a confident, independent person. It sounds like he is not dealing with the responsibility of being a parent. He is also not doing well in being responsible for you. Any you may be coming across as "needy" to him. I am not saying there is anything wrong with needing him, just trying to give you an idea of what he may be feeling. It may be too much for him, so he is avoiding it. Sounds like he can't handle the pressure.

My advice to you would be to take control of what you can control. That includes you and your baby. Show him that you don't really need him (even if it is sort of fake right now). You are probably a bit overwhelmed and emotional right now, even if you don't really realize it. The next time that you see him, make sure you are confident and have yourself together. Let him see the person that he fell in love with. Fix your hair, put on make-up, be super-confident in yourself. Let him see that you can handle yourself with or without him. And put on a happy air, fake or not. That may ease his mind about feeling totally responsible for everything. Or, it may not. Make plans that don't revolve around him. It's harder with a young baby; but, you need to get out there and do some things that will make you feel better.

Shortly after the births of my two children, I was very dependent on my husband. Neither of us were getting any sleep. I was home all day with nobody to talk to while my husband was at work. Spit-up was the most common accessory to my baggy comfortable clothing. Your hormones are going crazy. I cried watching an episode of the Flintstones cartoon. I don't think I brushed my hair everyday. Those were some tough times, on both my husband and I. Babies are a big adjustment. But you manage and things get better and easier. Your boyfriend may be having a hard time seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Either that, or he is a jerk. Only you can make that decision. I hope he's just having a hard time adjusting.

Good luck and I hope the talk with the third party works out.