Foxjumper, how old are you and your boyfriend? I know that, once you have a child, your age shouldn't really matter, but it does. At first, when you said your boyfriend kept talking about needing to earn more money, I thought it might be that, as a new parent, he felt really responsible to earn as much as he could. But as you continued your story, it sounds like he's simply not ready to be a partner and father. It's NOT YOU...as in, don't blame yourself. It doesn't matter that you might still be chunky from pregnancy, or that you're needy or teary-eyed. THOSE THINGS DO NOT MATTER. IF he LOVED you, he'd LOVE you despite, because, WITH all those things happening. After all, HE's half the reason you're dealing with post-pregnancy issues anyway.

Yes, a new baby can strain ANY relationship. But if the love is there, you work through it. The father doesn't ditch and run unless he's extremely immature and/or not committed to the relationship.

I know that's probably NOT what you want to hear. {hugs} I think, that, relationship-wise, you should let it go. Even if you "convince" him to stay right now, it'll only be temporary and YOU'RE worth more than that. You should find someone who WANTS to spend the rest of their life with you.

But, he IS the father of your child. As the father, he needs to step up and begin providing financial support. Contact whatever agency in your area that governs child support payments. Contact a lawyer if you need to. But he has an obligation and a responsibility to your child provide financial support. Do NOT let him get away with being a deadbeat father.

Cindy