Please do me a favor. Make a list of all the things you would like from him. Make a list of the little things you need to be happy in this relationship. Write it all down on paper.

Done? Good.

Now read the list.

Do it again.

Do it again.

Now read it thinking "I deserve these things." Not "I want these things" or "It would be nice to have these things"

"I DESERVE these things"

"I DESERVE THESE THINGS"

Read it until you understand you are not a burden to him. His daughter should not be a burden to him. You are supposed to be the woman he loves! Is it a strain to raise a baby? Of course it is. But that ISN'T YOUR FAULT. He can't put that on you and you shouldn't take it if he does. You've explained to him what you need. It is not an outrageous request for him to be home every now and then. It is a shitty shitty thing for him to never be home and then bitch about who takes care of the baby. For some reason that really makes me angry.

He shouldn't get to decide where you stay or when you leave. If he wants you to stay home he needs to make it a home, not just a place he sleeps at night.

I also want to say that it is really easy for us to sit by our computers and tell you what you should do. Don't feel bad if you don't take any of our advice. Do what feels like the right thing to you. Do what you need to do for that amazing baby to be happy.

If you ever want to just completely bitch it out feel free to PM me.

{{{hugs}}}