Are you sure he didn't just come home because it was 'bout that time? Real effort would be calling, or coming home at 9.

Men do not respond to weakness. I know you feel you need to show him how awful he's made you feel, cause maybe it'll make him feel guilty..etc but when you say things like he makes you feel ugly....he doesn't register that as 'whoo I need to change NOW!!' There is no respect to be earned in being weak.

I would get mad. Detach yourself emotionally, and mean business, no nagging or crying. You want a partner.. and your babys father. You have a right to demand it. Do not show emotion like how bad he's hurting you, but be solid and firm and if he has any sense maybe he will get it and realize you are not just overly emotional. but that you are dead serious and if he can't step up, here's the door!!

and I know this isn't what you want to hear but don't be a fool inlove who is blind to anything he may be doing.... I don't see what he'd be out close to 3am doing honestly, and that combined with his hostility... just don't let him short change you and take advantage of you. Eta: he said hed be home by noon....if he's not, there's your answer.

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