I'm sorry, you gave it your best try, I know you did.... But, you can not have a relationship with just one of the parties working at it. You are a mom and a strong, smart person. you know what you have to do. And you deserve to be treated well, and not to have to deal with this crap. Do not however, release this man from his financial obligation to his child. And don't ever offer him or any other man money to spend time with you. Gah... I am older, and I know this..As I also said before, a man told me once, that if a guy loves you, he wants to be with you. Not out and about..doing whatfriggingever..