There's not a lot to add to what people have written except that no man should expect you to work him out of his difficulties. That's what therapists are for. I had a dear friend once that was suicidal. I didn't have the skills to help him when he went into a depression, and he dragged me down with him. There will be plenty of men that will think you are pretty. You are not mature or strong enough to help this man through his problems. Get out of the bars, read some good books, go to some emotionally healthy events, and you'll keep your life on track. Love does not solve problems that are probably rooted deep in his childhood. Sometimes women think that loving a man is enough to turn them around; and it is NOT.