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Jan 4 12 5:51 AM
Tonkasmum wrote:I think if you change it back at the time of the divorce, you're better off. If you wait, then it turns into a pain (and is more expensive). I kept my married name when I divorced, I figured everyone knew me by it and didn't see much of a reason to go through the hassle. Of course, now I get the added giggles that the ex's girlfriend is just FURIOUS I didn't change my name. Apparently I "don't deserve" to have his name...
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Jan 4 12 6:55 AM
Foxhunter wrote:roro - it's not a hassle to keep it, they're talking about changing it back as being a hassle. You have to tell everyone you've changed it, and remember to change it on all your legal papers - that's the hassle.
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Jan 4 12 6:59 AM
DressageASB wrote: I took my husband's last name when I married. Some parts of changing are a little bit of a hassle, but it wasn't overly difficult to do. I think if for some reason my husband and I ever split, I would probably keep his name just because it's shorter and easier to spell and pronounce than my maiden name ever was
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Jan 4 12 7:36 AM
thedens wrote:Skcup wrote:Can I have sex with neopolitan ice cream?Only the chocolate, maybe the vanilla if you're really kinky. Nobody fucks the strawberry, that's just wrong.
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Jan 4 12 7:42 AM
GreyAppendix wrote:Foxhunter wrote:roro - it's not a hassle to keep it, they're talking about changing it back as being a hassle. You have to tell everyone you've changed it, and remember to change it on all your legal papers - that's the hassle. Not entirely true. People were discussing "keeping it for the kids" and how having a different last name than your children related to "paperwork, school, [doctors] and everything [one has] to do as a mom."My mother also never changed her name when she got married. Would it be more of a hassle to change it if you are a parent? Probably. But just a difference in last names wasn't an issue for the things mentioned above. ETA: Fixing where I make it seem like my parents are divorced.
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Jan 4 12 7:50 AM
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Foxhunter wrote: The way roro said it - as I interpreted it - was that she thought people were saying that keeping your maiden name, as her mother did, was a hassle. That wasn't what people were discussing, just changing it back, once you have taken your husband's name. Oh, OK, I see what you, and she, were saying now. I think it's a little easier for a parent to have the same last name as a child, but not that big of a deal in this day and age. I never assume that a parent has the same last name as a child. To make matters really confusing, I know a woman - a real hippie, Mother Earth type person (and really annoyingly so) - who has given her first name as a last name to her children - all 5 or 6 of them, last I checked. So her first name is Brooke, with her maiden name, and her kids' last name is Brooke.
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Jan 4 12 8:06 AM
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Jan 4 12 8:55 AM
goflippr wrote:I would never change my name if I ever got married again and in retrospect wish I never had.
Spooksandbolts wrote:How terribly sad for you that the extensive advice you've been given wasn't what you wanted and wasn't sufficient for you to figure what to do.
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Jan 4 12 9:13 AM
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Jan 4 12 10:05 AM
GasMenagerie wrote:I "took" my husband's last name when we married... got it changed on my DL and used it for everything except taxes ... never changed it with SS. Then after 911 they wouldn't renew my DL so I had to go to SS and change it. It was a hassle... just because going into a SS office makes me go insane. I would really consider keeping it for the kids because of what Eva says. My aunt kept her name and her son kept her ex's name and her new husband has his name... and it was just kind of silly IMO. Unless you are a movie star or politician... why not have a family united by the same last name. And when my DH was coaching and we got the list of kids on the team and the kid had a different last name than the parent(s) we always knew there were going to be issues. (mostly with "it's my husband's weekend and his GF refuses to drive my son to practice")Just my opinion. ETA: If we had no kids I would keep it only because it's easier to spell!!
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Jan 4 12 10:08 AM
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Jan 4 12 10:17 AM
goflippr wrote:GreyAppendix wrote: I can't say I ever felt our family was less united because we didn't all have the same name. This. Everyone would feel this way in my utopian world.
GreyAppendix wrote: I can't say I ever felt our family was less united because we didn't all have the same name.
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